Monthly Archives: August 2014

Bite Me, Common Sense

There are times where I would be going about my day, having a conversation and I indicate I don’t follow what the other party is saying. Then suddenly I find myself being told,

“It’s just common sense.”

Well, I find that statement to be useless and condescending (which, ironically, should be widely accepted, IMHO). It has no information explaining why I should know certain things then do them accordingly. So I didn’t think of that, big deal. Did I miss the program where some professional renaissance man dispensed applicable life hacks to all children at the same time?

If given snake to cook, what action would you automatically take?
A) Hunt for a long pan
B) Cut it into pieces

I am, sadly, of the A Team (aka Work Harder Not Smarter). I am sure I would be certifiably retarded if I were tested. So it seems I did miss that bus or whatever and I feel off once in a while because I don’t seem to meet this expectation. I’ve had this issue as long as I can remember. Rules and directions I can do well. Logical choices given precedents, sure. Abstract memes from nowhere, not so much.

But really why should I accept such a notion when many don’t seem to realize the same way I do:

  • Expect to be hit on by freaky or dangerous creeps when you are internet dating/clubbing/out at 2am.
  • Marriage was created by God and should be done per original design.
  • Don’t be a flake. If you say yes, be consistently reliable and stand by your word.
  • Sleep 8+ hours. You’ll be healthier for it.
  • Worrying doesn’t make a difference in the end.
  • Eggs should be kept at room temperature, especially when a recipe calls for medium to stiff peaks.
  • Staring at your electronic device constantly when you have good company is unacceptably lame.
  • Always have a towel handy.

I picked those up through observations, maybe borrowed from the Wear Sunscreen song, who knows. But people I know seem unaware or simply have trouble with those concepts. Yet I never throw out the dreaded above phrase like a royal know-it-all because I know I have my personal sense about things that are “obvious”.  There are levels to be sure, starting from hot beverages are hot, but for the most part it sounds like a made up system or conspiracy to distract us from the impending zombie apocalypse.

Due to our endless backgrounds there are very few decisions or solutions that we agree upon 100%. If it seems weird that a person doesn’t see it a certain way a little understanding would definitely be appreciated. Assuming the other person has the same thought process is frustratingly unreasonable.

Also, why would I want something “common” anyway? Advocating the mundane status quo stifles creativity or daring to use a new, possibly better perspective.  Whether it’s skills, manners, or street smarts, we all can contribute in some area so we should teach each other. It would certainly be a friendlier world if this communication took place more often.

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I’d rather chew sand than go back to all that.
– Memoirs of a Geisha

A decade has gone since I graduated high school.  If I remember correctly, I was an awkward bookworm, selfish and ruled by fear.  Not much has changed.  Recently I attended my 10 year reunion.  In the months leading up to it, I was processing the following:

Why go
– Where are they now?
– Closure
– Potential new friend/ romance
– Encourage someone/ be encouraged
– Job leads

Why no
– Old drama
– Too cool
– Feeling inadequate

What not to say
“Do you want to hear about about my debt/health issues?”
“Dang, when did you let yourself go, you fat fat fatty?!”
“Are you still living with your parents?”
“You used to be so hot, did you get hit with an ugly stick or something?”
“I remember I used to stalk you and asked you to prom senior year but you said no so I cried at home listening to Babyface’s ‘Nobody’ for a week, hahaha…”

Mostly I thought it would be a unique event I can talk and blog about.  A small part of me wished I could walk in looking like 100k saying, “Yeah I traveled the world, started my own business, and have 2 kids in private academies.  That’s my trophy husband there who’s a doctor and board member of Mensa International.”  Vanity.  I may be struggling and figuring things out but I know I reached my goal of being reasonably mature person I can respect. I had a good time eating at the restaurant and hanging out with old peers. Some people I wanted to see were missing but it was great to talk to people who somehow remembered me when I mostly kept to myself as much as possible back then.  We did segregate into cliques just like we did back then, but it happens. It was comforting to reconnect knowing we’re all growing old together.  Although I am undeniably asocial and was a bit nervous about the event, it helped to know none of us have it all together.  We have all been through pain and want to pursue freedom and happiness.  Those magical teenage years are gone and we lost our innocence, imagination, dreams, and idealism somewhere behind us on the road to adulthood.

I really appreciated the team who put the event together, they must have gone through a lot of pressure and it was risky in some ways. Oddly enough, it started to rain at the end of the evening even though we were experiencing a long hot drought.  It seemed fitting to mark another piece of my life left as a shadow of the past.