Opportunities. They are out there and not always given to you. A relationship is not something handed to us while sitting around with our hopes and dreams, we all have to get out there in the right environment and jump into the deep end.
Recently I left my job for a new one because I wanted a change of pace and set on a path I could respect. That and I am really, really over customer service. I thought through how the beginning and ending have us in similar boats. Lettuce examine…
The Hunt/ Rejection:
You have fantasies about getting into the game and changing your status. Maybe you can afford to pick and choose from offers and life is all unicorns and lollipops. The rest will roam hungry, almost desperate for someone to notice you and give you a chance. So now you wait. And wait. And wait. It’s cold out there.
First Date/ Interview:
They called and want to see you! Time to share the news to your friends and family. The night before you analyze what to say and deal with nerves. The day arrives and you dress to impress. You wonder what happened to the previous person and if this will lead to something real and you do your best to accentuate your positives instead of displaying any flaws.
You enter into a commitment, which is a risk on both sides. You consistently show up motivated and eager to please the other. It’s getting comfortable as you get into the swing of things. People always ask about the one you’re involved with and you tend to talk about them often.
No relationship is perfect. There will be times when you wonder who is giving more and if this the right one. There may be signs this is toxic or a waste of time with no signs of improvement. After a while you wonder if there’s another out there for you but you already invested good years with this one. You wonder if you can do without them but you have started on the road to bitterness with your current situation. You used to look forward to seeing them but now it’s just became a routine. You don’t know when things started to decline but you take it for granted now.
One day things clear up for you. It’s not them, it’s you, or whatever nonsense. You were faithfully with them almost every day. They were a constant in your life and you were together through thick and thin. The fear of staying is worse than the fear of leaving and your choice will cost you either way. You end things with them politely. It’s finally over and you are free with no idea what’s next. Cutting ties is bitter and sweet but you can shape your lift as you see fit.
Happy Ever After
You end up spending the rest of your life with your significant other. Such everlasting dedication defines you and other relationships automatically take a back seat to this one without question. Hopefully both parties respect each other and improve over the years of learning. Through all the rosy days, mediocre patches, and rough storms, you endure until the end.
Side Note – Standards
I am exceedingly familiar with having healthy requirements when it came to a romantic prospect, but didn’t think about personal preferences when it came to work. I thought I’d be fine with whatever I can get. My skills are limited but I recently I found out I have so many demands. I don’t want to pay my dues anymore. I want a stable full time job without coming in on weekends. I want paid holidays and vacation with medical coverage. I should aim for a higher salary each time. All this within a 20 mile commute. And on top of that I want to wear casual clothes. Not to mention admirable peers I can grow. What I bring to the table is dedication, productivity, compliance, integrity, excellent attendance, and a complete disregard for my cell phone.
It’s not easy dealing with adulthood where doors open and close in complicated ways, but we can all agree that we look forward to something better when we begin or end our chapters.