Monthly Archives: January 2014

Gray Matter: Chivalry

Today we will have a battle for and against the concept of chivalry.

The first from Mr. James:

Who is really killing chivalry

Point: The lesson that we should overcome fear when it comes to extending kindness was most welcome.  It is touching to see a man willing to help with a woman’s burden whether they are spouses or strangers.  I remember years ago I was walking on the sidewalk with my cousin.  He automatically moved to the outside and I thought it surreal at first but grew to like it.  I also enjoy going to a nice restaurant when the valet guys move to open and close the car door, it’s all so Downton-y.

Demerit: lol, statistics

Takeaway:  When a friend or boyfriend displays manners – a lost art infrequently taught and rapidly dying – cherish it.  Though not appreciated by everyone, they are a mark of order in civilization.  Care and initiative should be valued, but in this fast paced world that scorns gender roles and authority it will obviously get run over.   I’m not saying we should feel entitled or start making demands, but let’s do our part to keep gallantry alive!

And now from Miss Katie:

Chivalry, knights, and other irrelevant things

Point: I agree that it’s off-putting to have anyone else order for you.  Unless we are in an intimidating foreign place or I wasn’t functioning and asked them to do so, that shows some control issues.  Once when going out with a group, this guy decided to order family style for all of us.  It might be that he was trying to impress the girls, but it was a novel experience for me (because who likes waiting for people to make decisions anyway?).  To the rest of the females, it was quite an alarming event and some fans and smelling salts were brought forth to recover.

Demerit: So it’s impressive to meet a man who behaves as appropriately as he would at a work setting?  How does avoiding crude guys who discuss body parts relate to being treated like a lady?  Guys, if a girl hates your polite gestures to the point where character or communication is dismissed outright then it’s not going to work out (but don’t forsake practicing them just because of that). Ladies, it’s not a question of whether we are capable of handling a door or chair, it’s about graciously receiving courtesy.

Takeaway: Opening doors, pulling out chairs, and sometimes even paying for the meal (cheap guys = so lame).  This princess says yes.  I don’t see how there’s a need to cut down said actions I do not find them restricting, condescending, or offensive.  They would only be irrelevant if we lived in a socialist regime that gave rations and also took away doors and chairs.

Final Verdict:  James wins by a landslide.

Yes, I have trouble trusting a guy to carry my bag or to loan me their jacket (I’m rarely without one to prevent this situation).  Of course, if a guy’s motive is less than honorable than time will tell.  You shouldn’t feel like you owe something for their sweet moves either, but you should acknowledge them in their favor.

I also make fun of dreams about princes or knights taking us away to their castle, I never much cared for the trope.  It’s all about the supernatural hotties these days.

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All By Myself

Recently I came across this post and so many things clicked for me:

I am introvert hear me roar in my head

Well said Katie, my champion. 

They ask: How are you? Why won’t you respond?  Are you mad at me?
I think: What’s with the 3rd degree interrogation?  What do you want?  I have nothing to say, get off my back

It is such a relief to know that hiding in a shell isn’t necessarily a personality flaw.  I get aggravated when people I’m close to make me uncomfortable at times and fail to see they are stressing me out.  I would ignore them or turn questions around as a distraction ploy.  This article got to me since I felt misunderstood and at a disadvantage compared to the extroverts.

I appreciated the lesson that it’s okay to be quiet and I can let people know this to curb their prying.  I am fearful and shy as well, measuring my words to portray an image of mature and diplomatic grace (but it never works).  I love it when there’s a bad turnout at an event and there’s room to talk one on one to a friendly stranger.  I’ll clam up when there’s a discussion with 2 or more present.  I would die a thousand deaths if I had to network or take a sales position.  I count it fortunate when I meet those that are outgoing but admittedly cannot put up with another like myself.  Because awkward.  It is painfully bothersome when I’m around another shy or introverted person, but I view it as a challenge to draw them out on the few occasions I feel like talking.  I have to practice topics that are intelligent and entertaining to discuss before I am ready to go out.  When it comes to cute guys I freak out and guard my words even more.  It’s weird when I host an event, since I prefer to disappear in a corner while observing the scene (just call me Gatsby, old sport). 

This world that tends to notice and value the louder flashy exhibitionists.  But there are others like Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Iand Emma Watson who made it, which is a great comfort as I try to figure out what trade is most suitable with my talents.

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Birthday

One of my favorite days where I can be (extra) demanding and entitled.  I got what I wanted which was good health and time with the people I love save for my brother. It also helped that TVD’s premiere aired this week with their 100th episode.  Wheeeee.   That with discovering Gone with the Wind’s unbearable story, it’s almost too much to handle.  I guess I wouldn’t mind a hug from Ed Sheeran or a necklace from Tiffany’s.  Oh, and a puppy would be lovely.  But otherwise I can’t really imagine or ask for more; I am grateful for what I have – which is more than enough. But, just for fun,

Miracles I would love to see happen in my lifetime

  • Hey Arnold! The Jungle Movie
  • Magic food microwave like in Fifth Element
  • Reunification of Korea
  • Cure for cancer, diabetes, food allergies, etc. (that don’t break the bank)
  • US National debt paid in full
  • Revival: seeing family and peers surrender to Christ
  • Adaptation of the False Prince and Ranger’s Apprentice series to film
  • Religious freedom in the Middle East and Asia
  • Digital smart menus when dining in a restaurant
  • Flying robots that start and finish all roadwork in less than an hour
  • Apps dedicated to showing anime and Asian dramas with subtitles
  • A real life Babel fish issued to everyone.  It should bleep out profanity and include Ebonics and slang 
  • Prominent and respectable Asian role models in business, church, and the arts
  • These are some things I’m waiting for, we’ll see what happens.

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Immortal Songs 2

Ugh, reality shows.  More like reality no’s.  Given the choice between the two I would go hiking every day for a month.  Or eat my weight in salad to go along with my haterade.  Not only do we get treated to incredibly filthy content, other countries are sadly influenced or horrified by abysmally stupid aspects of US culture (better left off camera).  As far as personal taste, I want to enjoy well written epic story arcs spanning over seasons with special effects and professional actors, not an average group vying and/or crying without dignity.  Besides, don’t we already get enough reality during the day?*

Recently I was visiting my parents who were watching a show on KBS.  I thought it was curious they weren’t sucked into the History Channel aliens-are-responsible-for-everything-nonsense-program per usual so I sat with them for a while.

Premise: Singers performing on stage and eliminated through voting.  But let’s not suffer amateur nobodies with big dreams, bring on the real deal artists who are already recognized.  Every week a new set of individuals are challenged to remix hit songs and collaborate as well as perform medleys.  Proving again the RSK empire has the superior edge in musical talent and pretty boys by far.  I liked the concept because of its broad appeal to audiences.

Seniors: Hey, I remember that old timey tune!

Youth: (shrieking their heads off)

Overseas: Oh, who is this person?  Must research and enjoy their singles on Youtube.

This program was 77.3% enjoyable, but I went back to reading my novel after a few performances.  Will not follow Immortal Songs, as I can only afford to invest in streaming CW shows (also featuring immortals).

Moon Myungjin

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My mom likes this dude.   I think he is talented and his range is appealing.  I’m pretty sure my mom would like Ed Sheeran too.

I prefer the group Sweet Sorrow.
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As usual it’s all about the pretty boys with high maintenance hair, sigh…

*exception = Top Chef, since the contestants are usually competent and woohoo Tom Colicchio


Is Following Jesus a Drag?

Yes the free gift of eternal life is good news.  Is this reality synonymous with inconvenience?  Let me put it this way: Yes.  Since it is natural to go along with the program the world sets for us, it takes a compelling truth to willingly die to desires and acknowledge an authority over us.   Here are some aspects that a Christian walk has in store for us:

Suffering through Trials
Want problems?  Sign me up.  I always want to be like the chosen ones, you know those Jews who had it easy for millennia.  I mean do they  get all the luck or what?  The Bible says plainly that whether we belong to Him or not it rains on us both.  “You mean we can’t we get a special protective leaf or umbrella held by an angel to provide shelter when we need it?” Life is hard.  There is no charmed path for anyone.  It is also a tiring battle to be rooted in God and called to be a mature example in a culture that is morally and ethically declining.

No one to blame but yourself.
It takes strength to set aside my pride and admit that I’m not perfect, I have to work on many deep flaws and need to depend on God every day.   This is difficult in a country where we are so entitled as a consumer who is used to being catered to left and right.  I have a section in my notebook where I write take home ideas and thoughts during sermons or studies.  It is titled “God is right and I am wrong” which is a reminder not to give myself credit and not take any opinion over His.

Is it all rules and regulations?
Limits = lame. Like when our parents try to protect and teach us to avoid unnecessary trouble and foolishness. Psh. Who needs that. It’s just easier to be yourself and go with the flow. Society is looking out for me and my well being is safely invested in trends and popular opinions of the day.

You mean I have to go to church?  With other Christians (gasp)?
There are days where I am unmotivated to attend service and would love to sleep in or veg out instead, the same way I would battle with classes or any form of exercise.   This has to do with how introverted and lazy I am, but I imagine there are infinite cases out there involving drama and awkwardness far more compelling.  Just like any other group, you’ll find all types of members.  We are all one family but there are those that take being a child of God seriously and there are fans who subscribe then wander off to do their own thing.  We struggle but we can encourage one another in our teaching for the best and ideal way to live for Christ.  On one hand the teaching will call us out and challenge us to be better which is never fun.  On the other hand messages unify, bring us to  freedom, and closer to God when we deal with our sin.

Things that seem to be no-no’s/ off limits:

– FML
– “My way or the highway”
– Devotion to celebrities (even Christian ones)
– Suicidal
– Conditional/ selective love
– People suck
– Drugs/ drunkenness
– “I will never forgive you”
– Revenge
– Foul language
– Sex outside marriage

It’s a pain to be aware of the fine balance between liberty and honorable behavior.  There are moments when I am tempted to say the swear words already in my head out loud.  If truth or belief is evidenced by only feeling, then I would consider myself a Christian on a handful of days.  I don’t have a sense of victory when I wake up every morning and I can’t say I always anticipate heaven without fear of death.  It takes effort to evaluate our habits and attitudes or its affect on others then consider another healthier course.

Q: So, why would you want to commit to Christ anyway?
A: Glad you asked!

Equality
Jesus offers everyone an opportunity to know Him and be in His presence forever.  He accepts and welcomes us, especially if we are misfits and rejects, because He was one also.  We are all God’s subjects; there is no hierarchy at the foot of the cross. No one has an advantage over the other. We are all part of the body that has their own part and talent such as the eye, ear, nose, etc. There is no point system counting money given or hours in church. We will all be judged and rewarded according to our heart and obedience.

(Real) Epic heroes/ villains
The Bible is hardcore.  Against it nothing can stand.
There are mighty manly examples with Joseph, Moses, Daniel, David, and Paul, to name a few.  Don’t forget Esther, Abigail, and Jael who took care of business too!
And we also get to look into all the colossal failures stemming back from Eve, the bloody side of David, the folly of Solomon and Samson, as well as the greatest traitor Judas. They are reminders that no one is less susceptible to temptation or depravity.
And then we have the 3rd act finale, Jesus’ power over death, the destruction of of Satan in Revelation, and establishing a new heaven and earth (NSFW)
Like Greg Laurie says, sure there’s Spiderman, Batman, and Superman.  That’s cute.  We have Godman!!

Transformation
There is a difference between going through life and growing through life.  Hopefully no one will stay stuck in their state lacking progress but instead renewed day by day through interaction with the word and a Christian community. Through Christ we are healed of the darkness that plagues humanity with rejection and pain. I love to hear speakers share their stories of how God made them over and lead them to unexpected people and places.  Jesus is the example and way to characteristics of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.

Our worth and identity is in Christ
When the creator of the universe cares for you and says he loves you, there is nothing that can top or remove that.   We can worship external things that leave, fade or die.  The things of the material American Dream are meaningless and empty on their own.  It will cost you everything to surrender to  God, the definition of wisdom and love, but He will bring rest and satisfaction.   There is no thought or action that God does not know and yet He still wants us completely because we are broken and no sin committed is news to God who sees throughout all time.  It’s not a matter of who you are but whose and it’s wonderful when that is an association with the glorious and mighty king!

 


Profile: Hunter

Dogs.  They are friends to the end and loyal to a fault.  This being toward humans, they certainly do not have an overabundance of sense.  I fall apart when it comes to canines.  Not only are they adorable, but they love you unconditionally and will not judge your appearance or speech.  The dark price is their short life span which can devastate you if you are attached to them like family.  I always wanted to write about Hunter, the one in a million who deeply affects me like none other, and so I shall because my heart belongs to him.  Our love will be legend!

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AKA: Cutie Pie, Hunchy, Bad Boy, Darling

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Description
Coloration is white with brown spots and he has a magnificently long tail you can bite or place your hair clip on.  He has the floppy ears of a beagle and stumpy legs of a basset hound.  When he is not moody he can be sweet.  He nudges you and sometimes raises his front end on the couch to get closer.  What I like is that he doesn’t lick you and cover you with slobber. 

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Singing
Typical hounds have a deep baying sound.  When he hears a noise or if you ask “Who’s there?” he will howl up a melancholy storm.

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Dining
The way to his heart is through his stomach, which sounds reasonable to me.  Somehow he ups the cuteness factor when it’s mealtime by perking up his ears.  I swear he manipulates me by making his eyes bigger and gets them to sparkle.  He eats with abandon (like I do) and goes to town on an empty dog food can. 

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Grumpy
A dumb, all accepting happy dog is boring.  At first we hated each other but over time grew close.  It is amusing to push his limits.  He growls when you get near his bed or food.  He really doesn’t like it when you touch his paws, which just happens to be an irresistible activity of mine.  I liken his personality to a temperamental Korean man.

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Smarts
This one can learn names and bark accordingly.  He knows how to play hide and seek.  My darling can also get out of a cone, take off a hair band, and utilize a mirror. 

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Oddities
– Allergic to wheat

– Digs into the carpet
– Skin problems
– Hates the camera (like myself)

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Dogs teach us to love without reserve and live each day to the fullest.  When you give a dog medicine, trim their nails, or give them baths, they tend to resist or flee.  I respond similarly in those situations even though it’s supposed to be beneficial.  It reminds me of how God provides and wants to give us the best but we miss it by turning away or fail to recognize what is in front of us. 

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And IIIIIIIII will always love youuuuu, Hunter!